I’m getting married and I have doubts: the nerves before the wedding

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Your wedding day comes loaded with dreams; In fact, the big day when the bride dresses in white is special for her because she can share with all her loved ones the happiness of true love and the privilege of having found a special person with whom to form a life project. in common.

However, since it is a decision that has so much to do with the future and with the idea of ​​sharing life together, it is normal for doubts, fears, insecurity and many questions to arise.

Tips to deal with doubts and fears prior to the wedding

  • First, it relativizes the situation. That is, this emotional process affects the vast majority of couples in the days prior to the link. Therefore, do not take it personally but as a more general situation.
  • Spend your time on immediate projects. For example, whenever something is troubling you on a mental level, focus your energy on all of the wedding preparations. In the same way, continue with your usual routine. That is, go to work with motivation, make plans with your friends, take care of your family, have space for yourself…
  • Write on a piece of paper how you feel, what thoughts come to mind, be objective and honest with yourself when analyzing your situation. That is to say, if the doubts about your wedding are really enormous, it is clear that the most advisable thing is to cancel the wedding, or at least, postpone it for a while until you clarify. There are people who panic to cancel the link once the commitment is made, however, the consequences of an unwanted link are much more serious. Therefore, the sooner the situation is dealt with, the better for both of you.
  • Use relaxation techniques to stay calm. For example, you can develop perfect control over your breath to connect with the present. No one knows what will happen tomorrow, so live in the now.
  • It is impossible to love without suffering. That is, no one has total security in love for life. There is fear of abandonment, rejection or loss. However, the only way to aspire to eternal love is through courage and initiative.
  • Talk to someone you trust so you can get it off your chest and get their opinion on it. On the other hand, you know yourself better than anyone, therefore, if you are an insecure person or excessively perfectionist, it is more normal for you to feel invaded by doubts.
  • You are in a unique and unrepeatable stage of your life, therefore, enjoy it one hundred percent. There are very nice movies that have a wedding as their background theme and that you can take advantage of to enjoy. For example: My Best Friend’s Wedding starring the attractive Julia Roberts.

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